Beautiful Mind – week four of the 2017 meditation course

Meditation Course Week 4
Beautiful Mind

Rojana Center, Bangkok, 2017


Video and transcript from the meditation course this year – fourth part

Part of the reason for posting the full transcript is to make the video searchable by content – i.e. for most videos you can only search by the title of the video, and not by it’s actual content.

 

full transcript:

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The topic today is in large part about Metta
– or loving-kindness meditation

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and loving kindness meditation

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is something that doesn’t come easy to me
it never came easy to me

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because I’m rather grumpy

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and I’m English

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and …
we don’t like bombastic things

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we like … humble

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self depreciating things

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and so I could never do it

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and the teachers would say
‘Ok just sit …’

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‘and shine this loving kindness over the whole world’

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‘think of every being as your mother’

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that ruined it right there

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and so I would sit, and I’m like
‘uggh, I don’t want to do it!’

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when I do meditation ..
I spend enough time thinking about stuff

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I spend all day thinking about stuff

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when I sit
and do my meditation

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I want to stop all that!
I don’t want to be doing things anymore

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so the loving kindness meditation
it made sense to me

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it’s a sensible practice ..
but .. I just …

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I guess I was very reluctant

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and if you do a meditation
.. or anything I guess ..

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half hearted, or a little bit reluctantly

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you know, it’s never really going to work
[did you catch that one?]

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and so I was doing this for

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years and years at the end of the meditation
would sit and ..

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after doing the meditation you would do the metta
or some kind of sharing of merits

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it’s very important

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that we don’t just do meditation for ourself

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we do meditation for the sake of all world beings

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according to the Buddhist schema

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there are 3 levels of merit

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what they call ‘merit’ in Thailand

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and often we don’t like this word ‘merit’ too much

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because it sounds a bit like when you were at school

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when you were at kindergarden
[nursery school]

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and if you do something good
you get like a gold star

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stuck on your report sheet
did you ever get this?

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and then you go home and ..
you get a gold star for art

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or a gold star for writing, or something

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and these were ‘merits’

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and if you do something good,
somebody gives you a merit

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So, Thais often use this word ‘merit’

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and it doesn’t go down too well with Westerners

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the word ‘merit’ actually, in the Thai is
in the Thai is ‘boon’ but in the Pali is ‘punya’

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and the word ‘punya’
[pu~n~na]

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means ‘to brighten’

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and the opposite of punya is paapa
or in Thai is pbaab

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and pbaab means to darken

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so punya is things that you can do
or experiences that you can have

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that brighten

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that make lighter, brighter, sweeter
purer, more beautiful

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there are 3 levels of punya

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and these 3 levels
the first level is

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generosity
and generosity has 2 kinds

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first of all is the giving of material things

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be it money, be it food,
be it shelter or be it medicine

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and the second level
is the giving of spiritual qualities

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So giving someone patience
giving someone time

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giving someone care
giving someone compliments

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then these are a form of spiritual giving

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the next level of punya is
sila, or morality

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and the idea is that if you keep the morality

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if you keep yourself as a good person
with basic precepts

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then this is an even higher offering to the world

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than giving things

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and then the third level of punya
or brightening, is

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called bhavana
and bhavana is ‘development’

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So if you develop good qualities

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good states of mind

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this is the highest offering that you can
make to the world – according to Buddhism

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so our practice that we do,
our meditation

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is a form of bhavana,
a form of development

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we are developing certain specific states of mind

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and we are developing certain specific observations

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then this development,
this growth as a human being

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this development into brighter
punya states

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this is our offering to the world that we can make

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so at the end of every meditation
we always do some kind of sharing of merits

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and it doesn’t really matter

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in my opinion

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which you choose
there are various different kinds

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of these beautiful states

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the other word than punya is ‘sobhana’

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and sobhana beans ‘beautiful’

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so

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so in the abhidhamma
they list all the possible states of mind

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according to the Buddhist schema of vourse

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there are certain states of mind that are based on greed

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certain states of mind that are based on
hatred

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certain states that are based on delusion

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there are certain states
that have no cause, or no root

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there are certain states that come from meditation

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and there are certain states that are called ‘sobhana’

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if there is an absence of greed, hatred or delusion

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these are listed as sobhana,
or ‘beautiful’ mind states

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So the …

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topic of today is developing beautiful mind states

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of which one is actually
metta, or loving kindness meditation

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So if everybody is here and every body is ready …
those of you who can sit ….

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somebody want to go first?

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[audience feedback]
it’s hard ?!

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too many mixed feelings – OK

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in amongst that mix, can you find this .. does it exist?
the well-wishing, unconditional, for all beings

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the idea –
ok so if the idea of it is clear, you start with the idea

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what about – and I’m interested for my own research

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is what about the trigger that you use

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do you use the words?
‘may you be happy, healthy’

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do you visualize a person’s face?

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do you visualize light?
do you visualize .. how do you do it?

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what’s your key?

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so what’s the trigger?

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[the only thing that works for me is my dog]

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your dog? OK!

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ok so if the dog is the trigger that’s cool

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I know somebody who imagines a foal
a new born horse

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horses don’t do it for me but ..

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kittens would do it for me

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ok she said she remembers

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she thinks of somebody she knows right now
who needs .. who is suffering

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and who might need that

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Ok so adding into the perception
that there is compassion

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and I guess beautiful beings in this universe

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and it’s not up to you to save them all

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so you are tapping in to a universal movement

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in a way
but do you do that by

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a visual image, by saying a particular word
or how is the key?

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so sometimes just knowing there is light

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and sometimes by remembering one of the Bodhisattvas such as Kuan Yin

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go ahead

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she said she uses her children

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because it’s easy to .. to
offer unconditionally to your children, but

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she also has a difficulty with her mother

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and why is it that we can’t
just offer this to certain people?

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anyone else?

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so it’s difficult to trigger that feeling

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for someone to whom you have a negative perception

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but that’s partly why we always start with the people
that we can trigger it easily with

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be it ourself, or teacher or something

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and then once you get hold of the feeling
then you can offer that feeling

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to me the key to that ..
because I would always like, have

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perfect beautiful loving kindness
towards all beings in the world

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except for him, him him, him

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Bleep not so much

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bleep nah-uh …

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and I would – I would have a list of people that ..

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I wouldn’t articulate it, but it would be in my head,
you know, that like

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some of you don’t deserve to be on my list right now

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I really noticed that feeling that
that holding back

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and I … somebody …

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the thing that got me through that was

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something somebody said once
– it’s an obvious thing, but –

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like I said

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at certain times something clicks into place

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and someone said
‘people only do bad things because they are suffering’

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and then that just clicked at that time

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and then – OK, I can do it now for all
even the bad people

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they wouldn’t be bad if they didn’t suffer

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and that just clicked, at that time
for me personally

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but for these things to click into place

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you have to be, kind of, working it

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So this is what we are doing with the meditation

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it may be difficult
it may be tricky

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It may be very easy for you too
for some people

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I was on a retreat – my first ever retreat

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and the teacher was saying

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you recite these words:
‘may you be happy, may you be healthy

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‘may you be free from suffering
may I be happy’

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‘may I be healthy
may I be free from suffering’

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and this is a very, kind of
audible thing

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is that the word?
it’s a thinking exercise

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and there was a a person there who was really not
enjoying this practice at all

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– it wasn’t me –

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and I spoke to them afterwards

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they said
‘oh wasn’t it terrible!’

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‘that metta meditation that he was doing
it just doesn’t work’

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‘and all that thinking about stuff!’

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and he said
‘oh no no no – I have a much better teacher, he …’

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‘has a different way of doing it’

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and I said
‘oh, what’s that way of doing it?’

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and he said
‘well, you imagine the whole world in pink’

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ok … !?

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if that’s your trigger
if that’s your way in, then use it

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it’s not that there’s a right method
and a wrong method

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it’s whatever the trigger is
to get you into that state, into that feeling

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then you can start to develop it

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if you find it difficult to develop

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like I said – just pretend you have it!

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pretend that you have
loving kindness for the whole world

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and if you can’t pretend that you have it
then you just invite it

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into yourself

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really nothing comes into you unless you invite it in

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this is why

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in all the movies – vampires

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when they come to your house

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and they knock on your door,
and they ask you

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they try and trick you
to make you invite them into the house

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and vampires represent the bad and the evil qualities

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which is why vampire can’t stand light

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so, bad qualities and good qualities

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they can only come into you
if you’ve invited them in

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so there are times when I’ve sat there
just like ….

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praying to be somebody who has loving kindness

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because all these other people were doing it

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and I tell you the truth –
16 years I tried to do loving kindness meditation

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and I got nothing

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I just couldn’t
it just didn’t exist there

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‘yeah yeah –
all of you be happy, all of you be peaceful’

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‘now leave me alone’

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‘and let me get on with my breathing meditation
because that I can do’

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but I was always conscious
that I was dismissing the practice

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was always conscious that there was an area that other people were doing

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that I hadn’t done.
That I hadn’t mastered yet

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and so I spent quite a long time
just asking the universe to teach me

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to bring it into me
to help me to be able to do it

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and it was much much later on that I was able to

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to start doing this kind of practice

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16 years it took me!

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Slow Learner!

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for loving kindness meditation

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one of the triggers ..
not the triggers, but

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one of the things that slotted into place

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we have this practice of remembering the qualities of the Buddha

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the compassion, the wisdom and the enlightenment of the Buddha – these 3 qualities

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you can also remember 10 qualities of the Buddha

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and, you know …

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I love the Buddha’s teaching,
but I never had a personal connection

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with this figure
like some people do

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and so I was just kind of playing around,
trying at one point with this

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remembering the qualities of the Buddha

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and then suddenly I got this

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visualization – now this was my imagination
it’s not a supernatural experience

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but this visualization of the Buddha being inside me

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and then this Buddha being just perfectly giving

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and I couples this with another
teaching which is

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with a Buddha – anything that you put on to them

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dies

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and what the meaning of this is
any karma

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that you take and you throw on to a Buddha
it dies right there

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somebody else told me it was like a bucket
like a refuse bin

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and any rubbish that you throw into the bin

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the bin has a big hole at the bottom and the rubbish goes out

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so these 2 ideas came together in my mind

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of this Buddha

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what would I be like if I was a Buddha?

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was the kind of idea

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and then this idea that any karma that
other people’s karma that comes to me

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it’s going to die right there
no more karma gets bounced back

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no more unhappy or un-nice thoughts get given back

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and the reason I found it
easier to do this as the Buddha

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was because I can’t do that

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I can’t just give back boundless openless compassion
[what the heck is ‘openless’?]

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to people who are
driving me to the wrong place

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a taxi driver –
I swear I said to him Wat Paknam Bhasicharoen

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and he took me to Wat Paknam Samut Prakaan

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it’s my fault – I had my headphones on and I said

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‘take me to Wat Paknam Bhasicharoen’
and I put my headphones on and I shut off

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and an hour later I opened my eyes,
and I’m in Samut Pragaan

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which is an hour and …
nearly 2 hours away from my temple

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and it’s very difficult to have

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metta for this person

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right ?
but if I imagine the Buddha being inside me

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he can have metta
he can have loving kindness to the person

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so it’s easier for me to offload it onto the Buddha
kind of thing

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I’m letting you into the secret machinations
of my mind here

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the point is that

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you have to be in it
you have to be working it

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you have to be trying to do it

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and even if the practice is difficult

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you have to keep it in mind

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and then at certain times, at certain places

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something somebody says

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or something that you remember will click into place
and then suddenly you’ll be able to do it

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you may be able to do it for 10 minutes
or 1/2 hour

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you may be able to do it with this person
but not with that person

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whatever it is that is your foundation
get started on this practice

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these are what I call
‘altered states of meditation’

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so these altered states of meditation

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often people get into meditation

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because they’ve heard of, or they’ve experienced
altered states of consciousness

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and usually when we talk about
altered states of consciousness

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we are referring to drugs

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or in psychology we are referring to states of sleep

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or sleep deprivation

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or things like this
as altered states of consciousness

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so I like this term
‘altered states of meditation’

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because in terms of consciousness with drugs and sleep deprivation and REM sleep and things

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these are really things that happen to you

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but with altered states of meditation
these are states that you are generating

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and we want to specifically try to generate these

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wholesome or punya
these bright states

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or sobhana –
these beautiful states of mind

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because most of the time that you spend in your life

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you spend putting your energy and attention
in to getting the things that you want

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and getting rid of the things that you don’t want

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if I was to follow you around
and take note of what’s gong through your mind

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how much time do you spend
to increasing your compassion?

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and how much time do you spend

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increasing your earning capacity?

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your potential for a promotion?

0:20:02.660,0:20:05.280
your potential for love

0:20:05.980,0:20:08.380
finding love with the person that you want

0:20:09.300,0:20:11.860
how much time do you spend watching TV?

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I can spend more time watching Judge Judy
than I do loving kindness meditation

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I always have this idea ….

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in Christianity of course, when you die
you go up to heaven and you meet St Peter

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and St Peter

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rather like Father Christmas,
he asks you ‘have you been a good boy?’

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and he has a book and a ledger,
and he’ll take note

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of what you’ve done

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and in Buddhism we have a similar story

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his name is King Yama

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and he’s a very fierce
and compassionate God

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and after you die, King Yma

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will come and look at the ledger of the things that you’ve done

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and he will decide which karma that you’ve done

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will propel you in to your next life

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so he’s accepting that you’ve done
lots of good things and lots of bad things

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but which deed is going to cause your rebirth?

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into a happy realm
or an unhappy realm

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according to the mythology
the legend

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So King Yama

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will be there – and part of the

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background of some of these myths and legends is

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this is how the artists used to represent them

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before books and CDs and YouTube and things

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Buddhism, as with, you know, all …

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great traditions

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was transmitted through stories

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and the stories were painted on walls

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so very often the

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stories that survive are the ones
that make for good pictures

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that the artist would paint on the walls
and you see this in Thai temples too

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so King Yama, with his jaws, and the whole world

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in his jaws and in his hands,
here, is like

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‘I’ve got total control and mastery’
and he’s always a pretty nasty looking figure

0:22:12.680,0:22:16.300
so I wonder, when I get to King Yama or St Peter

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and they’re going to say ‘you’ve spent ..
in your lifetime you’ve spent’

0:22:20.280,0:22:26.920
164291 hours watching YouTube

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and you’ve spent 4000 hours practicing loving kindness

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what do I want to show him when I die?

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so I have this image in my mind that

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these are …

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most of the time, most of your effort
goes into just getting what you want

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and not very much of your time goes into actually practicing these good and beautiful qualities

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‘well I have compassion!!’

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‘I feed the cat, I pay my taxes!’

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‘what more do you want?!’

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well we want more than that

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you have to … if you want to increase your compassion

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then you have to put in an affort

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and an energy in finding out how to do that

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if you want to increase your loving kindness

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you need to make a practice of it

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well, kindness and generosity

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I love this Thai tradition of putting food
in the alms bowls in the morning

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it’s not because I get the food!

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sometimes it’s not very convenient

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you know in Wat Doi Suthep

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the monks aren’t supposed to use the lift

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to go down the hillside,
so we go down the stairs

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we go round on the alms round in the local town

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and one of the ideas in Thai culture is
what you give is what you will receive

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so they give you their favorite foods

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because they want to get their
favorite food in the future

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and they also give you water

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because they want in their future
to never be short of water

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but

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but if 10 people give you a little ..
give you a bottle like this

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this is getting like 6,7 or 8 Kilos that you are carrying

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in your bag

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and you have to walk all the way
back up those steps to the temple

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and that’s quite a walk at the best of times

0:24:17.380,0:24:21.080
you try carrying the water
and the food, and your alms bowl

0:24:21.080,0:24:24.880
this is 15 or 20 kilos
that you are hoiking up the steps ..

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it’s not that we receive the things

0:24:27.460,0:24:30.440
that we praise the practice
it’s a beautiful thing

0:24:30.580,0:24:32.840
to start the day with an act of giving

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not only an act of giving,
but an act of giving to the Sangha

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which means that you are supporting this highest ideal of human kind, which is enlightenment

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I would also do a practice as I walked up the steps

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a practice of loving kindness

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and loving kindness for all those poor tourists

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who are going to be walking up the steps during the day

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so out of my absolute beautiful kindness of heart

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I would leave them bottles of water …

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as I go up the steps

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my loving kindness practice

0:25:14.280,0:25:17.780
so to improve on it you have to keep it close

0:25:17.780,0:25:22.020
you have to try to find ways to make it real

0:25:23.160,0:25:25.440
the statement – I have written up here

0:25:26.140,0:25:28.460
this is the Buddhist teaching

0:25:28.460,0:25:29.960
straight out of the suttas

0:25:30.500,0:25:36.400
‘to what a man thinks and ponders often
there is a leaning in his mind’

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this word ‘leaning’

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comes from a story of a tree

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and if the tree grows up crooked

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when a strong wind comes
and that tree is knocked down

0:25:48.320,0:25:50.180
which way will the tree fall?

0:25:50.700,0:25:54.060
of course it will fall
in the way that it’s already leaning

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the idea is we are all growing up a little bit crooked

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but when the day comes
which way are we going to fall?

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so

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when your taxi driver takes you an hour
in the wrong direction

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and you find out
which way does your mind fall?

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do you fall easily into anger and frustration

0:26:17.500,0:26:21.500
and making him feel unhappy
that he’s taken you the wrong way

0:26:21.500,0:26:24.220
which I’m ashamed to say is exactly what I did

0:26:27.640,0:26:32.080
you may feel the anger and frustration
but you don’t need to put that on to him

0:26:34.320,0:26:35.880
that’s the way I trained my mind

0:26:35.880,0:26:39.060
my mind falls easily into anger and frustration

0:26:39.200,0:26:42.640
my mind doesn’t fall so easily into loving kindness

0:26:43.560,0:26:44.980
unless I practice it

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if I practice it and I’m keeping it close

0:26:48.980,0:26:52.340
then my mind falls easily into the loving kindness

0:26:52.660,0:26:55.720
and as soon as I start to feel hateful, angry

0:26:56.720,0:26:58.800
at myself or at other people

0:26:59.280,0:27:04.020
that loving kindness is right there next to me
because I’m keeping it close to me

0:27:05.460,0:27:08.260
I think of it like a desktop on the computer

0:27:08.700,0:27:11.040
what documents do you have on your desktop?

0:27:11.180,0:27:14.700
in fact these days
my main documents I have in Dropbox

0:27:15.140,0:27:18.340
so my Dropbox folder – that’s what’s close to me!

0:27:18.920,0:27:20.020
because it’s right there

0:27:20.020,0:27:24.020
as soon as I turn on the computer
I can come back to that document

0:27:25.080,0:27:28.220
compare this to your photo albums

0:27:29.160,0:27:31.740
from 1975

0:27:33.020,0:27:36.220
where do you keep your photo albums from 1975?

0:27:37.400,0:27:42.180
they are in a folder, with other folders
in a box, in a bigger box, in the attic – right?

0:27:42.380,0:27:43.780
you don’t pull them out!

0:27:44.020,0:27:46.800
you may say ‘well I have them,
I keep them, they’re there!’

0:27:47.280,0:27:48.600
they are not really ‘there’

0:27:48.860,0:27:51.660
unless you keep them close on your desktop

0:27:52.780,0:27:57.100
so the loving kindness,
and other forms of beautiful mind states

0:27:57.400,0:28:01.400
we’ve only did the metta, loving kindness meditation ..

0:28:01.820,0:28:04.480
but there are many forms of beautiful mind state

0:28:04.660,0:28:06.420
you need to keep them close

0:28:06.660,0:28:08.180
if they are close to you

0:28:09.020,0:28:10.920
there is a leaning in your mind

0:28:10.920,0:28:13.040
your mind will easily lean

0:28:13.040,0:28:16.220
another word for ‘lean’
that they translate is a ‘bias’

0:28:17.440,0:28:21.120
usually we think of bias as a bad thing
but in this case it’s a good thing

0:28:21.700,0:28:22.360
if

0:28:23.120,0:28:26.580
the thing that you think and ponder
on often is a good thing

0:28:28.700,0:28:35.220
these practices that we do are to keep
the beautiful mind states close to us

0:28:36.340,0:28:40.440
that way then, our mind can fall easily into those states

0:28:42.940,0:28:44.980
does it really work?

0:28:46.060,0:28:49.980
when you are offering
loving kindness out to other people?

0:28:51.800,0:28:52.960
well, try it

0:28:53.820,0:28:58.580
offer them loving kindness, and then when you’ve finished, call them up and ask them

0:28:59.360,0:29:01.480
‘did you feel something just then?’

0:29:03.360,0:29:04.640
is it possible?

0:29:07.980,0:29:11.360
I don’t know, I mean you can’t say
but I believe so

0:29:12.760,0:29:16.180
there was a story of one dhamma teacher I know who

0:29:16.700,0:29:18.760
was working in a factory

0:29:18.920,0:29:20.580
and they’d gotten

0:29:20.620,0:29:23.100
into a negative mind state about somebody

0:29:23.100,0:29:24.480
and they thought
‘I know I’ll do’

0:29:24.620,0:29:27.040
‘metta loving kindness meditaiton’

0:29:27.400,0:29:31.600
now there happened to be somebody in that factory
who claimed they could see auras

0:29:31.600,0:29:34.380
and they were always telling you
your aura is this, or your aura is that

0:29:34.380,0:29:34.940
or …

0:29:36.900,0:29:40.400
you didn’t eat vegetables this morning,
you ate something else ..

0:29:40.400,0:29:42.680
and it’s disrupting this part of your aura

0:29:42.680,0:29:44.800
and this guy [dhamma teacher]
had always thought ‘yeah yeah yeah’

0:29:44.800,0:29:45.900
‘pull the other leg’

0:29:47.600,0:29:51.780
anyway – so he’d gotten into this
negative mind state with a person

0:29:53.120,0:29:55.240
decided to practice loving kindness

0:29:55.240,0:29:58.460
so he’s there, really beaming it out
really starting to enjoy it

0:29:58.740,0:30:00.380
and this guy walks past and says

0:30:00.380,0:30:02.280
‘WOW your aura just turned green!’

0:30:05.520,0:30:09.820
so if you fancy a green aura …
loving kindness …

0:30:11.320,0:30:12.500
is it possible?

0:30:14.640,0:30:16.980
one time I had a friend

0:30:17.200,0:30:21.040
.. we had a van trip
and somebody was taking the vans with us

0:30:21.400,0:30:23.200
and this person is very ….

0:30:23.820,0:30:25.220
what’s the word?

0:30:26.420,0:30:27.440
uppity

0:30:29.040,0:30:30.680
uppity – do you know that word?

0:30:32.940,0:30:36.120
kind of .. very particular .. precise

0:30:36.120,0:30:39.440
and will let you know the second
there is something they don’t like

0:30:40.640,0:30:44.860
and what I’d done was –
I think we’d had 32 people

0:30:45.840,0:30:48.120
and I thought well, 2 people aren’t going to show up

0:30:48.120,0:30:50.280
so I’ll get 3 vans – that’s 30 people

0:30:50.480,0:30:53.200
and what happened was 31 people showed up

0:30:53.700,0:30:56.180
and so in the vans, everyone got a seat

0:30:56.180,0:30:58.300
but he had to sit behind the driver

0:30:58.300,0:31:00.700
facing the rest of the people in the van

0:31:00.840,0:31:02.020
reverse seated

0:31:02.020,0:31:03.740
and it’s not very comfortable

0:31:04.900,0:31:07.320
and I knew that I was going to get both barrels

0:31:07.420,0:31:12.860
because this is not a person
who puts up with things easily

0:31:13.160,0:31:16.200
I even said – I won’t charge you for the van seat

0:31:17.420,0:31:19.260
‘it’s not about the money waaahhh’

0:31:19.440,0:31:23.680
so I made sure that I
was in a different van all the way down

0:31:25.880,0:31:27.640
[sending him loving kindness??]

0:31:27.840,0:31:31.800
sending him not loving kindness,
I was sending him patience

0:31:32.960,0:31:36.100
like I say, beautiful mind states are not only loving kindness

0:31:36.100,0:31:38.140
it’s also other states

0:31:38.140,0:31:42.100
so I was sending .. I was beaming
patience at him the whole way down

0:31:42.100,0:31:45.000
and we stopped about an hour and a half into the trip

0:31:45.000,0:31:49.180
and we all got off
to go to the bathroom at the station

0:31:50.000,0:31:52.060
and I went up to him and I said,
‘you know, if ..’

0:31:53.420,0:31:57.460
‘if you would like to take a seat in my van’

0:31:57.920,0:31:59.140
‘I’ll organise something’

0:31:59.140,0:32:02.140
I didn’t want to say, but I would take
the reverse seat

0:32:02.140,0:32:03.480
because I actually don’t mind

0:32:03.720,0:32:07.440
you should see some of the temple
vehicles that we have to sit in

0:32:08.860,0:32:11.100
and so I found him out and I said

0:32:11.460,0:32:13.620
‘that must have been uncomfortable for you’

0:32:13.620,0:32:15.680
‘I’m going to change it around
for the rest of the trip ..’

0:32:15.680,0:32:17.760
he was like
‘Oh no no it’s alright’

0:32:18.340,0:32:19.620
‘no problem at all’

0:32:19.840,0:32:20.380
[it worked?]

0:32:20.420,0:32:21.320
So it worked!

0:32:22.720,0:32:26.280
my patience that I sent him
worked!

0:32:28.000,0:32:29.240
now did it work ??

0:32:30.680,0:32:32.840
I’ll leave that for you to decide

0:32:35.120,0:32:39.660
there was a real experiment done on this
you may remember with TM

0:32:40.300,0:32:43.620
and it was in the late 70’s I think it was

0:32:44.300,0:32:47.740
and they had all the TM practitioners in Washington

0:32:48.200,0:32:52.220
don’t ask me if it’s Washington State
or Washington DC

0:32:54.660,0:33:01.440
and they – all the TM meditators got together and made a coordinated simultaneous meditation

0:33:01.640,0:33:02.500
for peace

0:33:03.540,0:33:07.220
and the crime rate dropped by a huge percentage
[23.3%]

0:33:07.260,0:33:09.580
at that time in Washington

0:33:10.960,0:33:12.080
[Washington DC]

0:33:12.180,0:33:13.360
that was DC?

0:33:13.460,0:33:15.520
So … I’m not

0:33:15.800,0:33:18.420
giving you the clear details but

0:33:18.420,0:33:21.300
but you can look this up
it’s quite a famous experiment

0:33:21.300,0:33:23.600
there are critics of the experiment

0:33:23.820,0:33:25.860
and there are proponents of the experiment

0:33:26.120,0:33:28.240
but there’s plenty of websites that show

0:33:28.880,0:33:30.920
good research into this

0:33:31.300,0:33:34.980
and it seems to be that actually it did make a difference

0:33:36.440,0:33:37.600
again …

0:33:38.080,0:33:42.100
it’s up to the individual to decide for themself

0:33:43.100,0:33:47.020
even if sending these states out doesn’t
make a difference

0:33:47.020,0:33:51.040
to the people around you
it’s still going to affect your own behaviour

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and your behavior affects the people around you

0:33:54.300,0:33:56.120
so either way

0:33:56.120,0:33:58.680
this is an offering that you make to the world

0:33:58.680,0:34:02.120
this is a way to remember your practice is not just for your self

0:34:02.280,0:34:03.880
but for all world beings

0:34:04.760,0:34:07.660
it’s also a way to start to distinguish

0:34:08.160,0:34:10.040
what are sobhana mind states

0:34:10.040,0:34:12.500
what are beautiful mind states

0:34:13.800,0:34:16.640
and traditionally we do metta, loving kindness

0:34:16.640,0:34:18.860
we also do Karuna

0:34:19.280,0:34:20.820
which is compassion

0:34:21.180,0:34:24.980
and compassion is feeling for other being’s suffering

0:34:27.460,0:34:29.340
we also do Mudita

0:34:29.640,0:34:30.480
which is

0:34:31.380,0:34:32.280
trickier !

0:34:32.680,0:34:34.880
it took years for me to get this one too

0:34:35.040,0:34:38.960
Mudita is feeling joy for other people’s success

0:34:41.100,0:34:43.300
when I first started doing this

0:34:43.380,0:34:45.460
when I finally figured it out

0:34:45.460,0:34:47.100
I really started to enjoy this

0:34:47.380,0:34:48.900
because it’s so lovely

0:34:49.260,0:34:51.260
feeling good for other people

0:34:51.580,0:34:53.640
‘oh this person is so beautiful’

0:34:53.680,0:34:56.160
or ‘has such a lovely car…’

0:34:56.280,0:34:58.120
or has such a nice life …

0:34:58.480,0:35:03.580
anything good – it’s really worshiping and praising the good things that happens to other people

0:35:04.960,0:35:07.960
the loving kindness,
the metta is kind of a

0:35:08.580,0:35:10.500
I don’t know if you say a mixture, but

0:35:10.780,0:35:12.640
is unconditional

0:35:12.640,0:35:15.800
so we are not looking at the bad things
we are not looking at the good things

0:35:16.180,0:35:18.980
Karuna, Mudita are both

0:35:19.400,0:35:21.320
have an element of judgement

0:35:21.840,0:35:25.440
the suffering or bad things …
success in good things

0:35:25.800,0:35:28.960
loving kindness is in-between
it has neither

0:35:29.520,0:35:34.540
so it’s unconditional
whatever the situation is it has a loving kindness

0:35:35.760,0:35:39.760
and the 4th one is Upekkha
or ‘equanimity’

0:35:40.860,0:35:44.680
and equanimity
– there is the dull kind

0:35:45.100,0:35:46.940
and there is the fierce kind

0:35:47.800,0:35:49.260
so the dull kind is

0:35:49.920,0:35:50.800
‘ stuff it ‘

0:35:52.040,0:35:53.480
bit of an English phrase

0:35:53.700,0:35:55.880
in Thai is ช่างมัน

0:35:56.240,0:35:57.440
any Thais here?

0:35:58.340,0:35:59.300
‘ chang man ‘

0:35:59.360,0:36:00.000
it’s like

0:36:01.000,0:36:02.520
stuff it
forget it

0:36:03.020,0:36:03.900
don’t care

0:36:04.420,0:36:07.900
so that’s the ..
like the fake equanimity

0:36:08.540,0:36:12.340
the positive equanimity is an equipoise

0:36:12.340,0:36:13.140
I like that word

0:36:13.380,0:36:17.000
because it’s a very vibrant, clear total balance

0:36:17.540,0:36:19.680
again I like this image of the

0:36:20.860,0:36:22.140
karma dying

0:36:22.560,0:36:24.500
any karma that gets put on you

0:36:24.500,0:36:27.560
dies right there because you are completely equanimous

0:36:28.580,0:36:31.620
and this practice also is quite tricky

0:36:33.200,0:36:36.360
because there are things that you don’t like
you don’t like to fall sick

0:36:36.360,0:36:37.100
you don’t like

0:36:37.500,0:36:40.220
certain people,
or certain governments

0:36:40.220,0:36:43.080
or certain newspapers,
or certain situations

0:36:43.540,0:36:45.560
you do love other things

0:36:46.040,0:36:49.240
so to have real equanimity is quite tricky

0:36:51.100,0:36:53.720
with the altered states of meditation then

0:36:53.840,0:36:56.540
there are 2 main categories

0:36:57.000,0:36:59.780
that are useful
altered states of meditation

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first category is what
I would call disenchantment

0:37:04.640,0:37:06.400
states and feelings

0:37:06.920,0:37:09.880
and these are insights that come from meditation

0:37:11.000,0:37:15.260
and so .. certain times
you look at something

0:37:15.260,0:37:18.680
you just have this overwhelming feeling
‘ That’s Not Real ‘

0:37:20.460,0:37:24.860
a person, or a place, or a situation
suddenly you snap out of it, and

0:37:25.200,0:37:27.600
it’s not real
or it’s not worthwhile

0:37:28.040,0:37:32.280
or sometimes you have a state of mind that’s there
and then suddenly it vanishes

0:37:32.300,0:37:34.080
and you notice it vanish

0:37:35.440,0:37:36.920
‘ that wasn’t real ‘

0:37:38.220,0:37:42.980
disenchantment – I love this word
it’s called nippita in the Pali

0:37:43.740,0:37:48.760
nippita – in Thai they translate as เบื่อหน่าย
which is to get fed up [of]

0:37:49.860,0:37:55.300
and there are various experiences
that lead you toward the dis- engagement

0:37:55.300,0:37:58.180
or the dis-entanglement with the things of the world

0:37:58.980,0:38:02.600
and it’s the things of the world
that attract your attention

0:38:03.160,0:38:04.040
outwards

0:38:04.400,0:38:07.460
because your attention leaks outwards
you miss

0:38:07.580,0:38:09.480
the citta, or the heart

0:38:10.340,0:38:12.260
or the unconditioned

0:38:12.480,0:38:14.880
so I was talking about this last week

0:38:15.140,0:38:17.380
enlightenment is unconditioned

0:38:18.320,0:38:24.560
or unborn, undying, unchanging
it’s kind of like the cinema screen

0:38:25.380,0:38:28.900
like this screen up here
we can play images on this screen

0:38:28.960,0:38:30.840
any image, any story

0:38:30.920,0:38:33.680
wonderful stories
terrible stories

0:38:34.920,0:38:36.760
and we see them on the screen

0:38:36.760,0:38:38.860
but the screen has never changed

0:38:39.220,0:38:44.020
the screen remains completely
unchanged by the thing that’s shone on it

0:38:44.200,0:38:47.960
in the same way our own real nature
out enlightened nature

0:38:48.000,0:38:49.680
or unconditioned nature

0:38:49.960,0:38:52.840
has always remained completely unchanged

0:38:53.720,0:38:58.720
it’s that real nature that
we are trying to get back to in the practice

0:39:00.500,0:39:01.140
So

0:39:01.380,0:39:03.620
why do we not see that real nature?

0:39:03.620,0:39:06.000
because our attention is leaking outwards

0:39:06.000,0:39:08.560
things that we can see
things that we can hear

0:39:08.560,0:39:11.420
things that we can taste
things that we can touch

0:39:11.620,0:39:14.200
things that we can feel
things that we can think about

0:39:14.200,0:39:16.640
and we like them or we dislike them

0:39:16.800,0:39:19.680
we push against them
or we try to pull them in

0:39:19.680,0:39:23.300
and this is what keeps our attention
dancing around in the world

0:39:23.500,0:39:27.100
to get back to this real nature
we have to dis-entangle

0:39:30.720,0:39:34.520
he has a mindfulness blog coming up called ‘Disentangled’

0:39:34.920,0:39:36.380
for this very reason

0:39:38.820,0:39:39.560
So

0:39:40.060,0:39:42.460
some of these beautiful mind states

0:39:42.460,0:39:44.900
might not appear as beautiful mind states

0:39:44.900,0:39:46.840
because they are feelings of
beuanai [disenchantment]

0:39:46.880,0:39:48.220
of getting fed up

0:39:48.560,0:39:51.040
of dis-enchantment with things

0:39:51.920,0:39:55.600
and I love this word enchantment
specifically because

0:39:56.280,0:39:59.000
I love faerie tales
and with faerie tales

0:39:59.260,0:40:03.340
there’s always the evil being
that puts an enchantment on you

0:40:03.980,0:40:06.440
makes you fall in love with the wrong person

0:40:06.440,0:40:08.360
or gives you creaky knees, or

0:40:08.380,0:40:10.980
whatever it is
turns you into a frog

0:40:11.580,0:40:14.860
and this enchantment is a spell, and it’s not real

0:40:14.960,0:40:18.900
it’s hiding you, or separating you
from your real nature

0:40:20.660,0:40:23.860
but that enchantment
in every faerie tale

0:40:23.900,0:40:25.420
there is always a trick

0:40:25.660,0:40:29.980
to breaking that enchantment
if you just know the trick

0:40:30.340,0:40:32.620
if the frog can just get a kiss

0:40:32.780,0:40:34.900
from a beautiful woman

0:40:34.900,0:40:37.380
then the enchantment is broken

0:40:39.480,0:40:42.360
so this word disenchantment

0:40:42.520,0:40:46.120
there are different words
they use dis-illusionment

0:40:46.180,0:40:47.580
sometimes as well

0:40:49.680,0:40:53.120
on the other side to disenchantment
experiences there are

0:40:53.180,0:40:55.060
illuminatory expeirences

0:40:55.060,0:40:57.900
where you suddenly see brightness or

0:40:57.920,0:41:00.960
light – when the mind suddenly comes together

0:41:01.140,0:41:03.440
when everything kind of coalesces

0:41:03.440,0:41:05.780
and these are enlightenment experiences

0:41:06.340,0:41:10.740
and of course most people
really want enlightenment experiences

0:41:11.840,0:41:14.000
you don’t want to sit there suffering

0:41:14.040,0:41:15.400
you don’t want to see

0:41:15.780,0:41:18.820
the unpleasant nature of your obsessive mind

0:41:19.720,0:41:23.480
but seeing the unpleasant nature
of your obsessive mind

0:41:23.520,0:41:25.480
will dis-entangle you from it

0:41:26.680,0:41:29.380
so ultimately
if you want to develop

0:41:29.620,0:41:30.360
wisdom

0:41:30.660,0:41:35.800
the disenchantment experiences
are longer lasting and more powerful

0:41:36.160,0:41:39.680
people dismiss them
because they are not so pleasant

0:41:41.540,0:41:43.620
the illuminatory experiences

0:41:43.680,0:41:46.960
great faith comes from illuminatory expeirence

0:41:48.180,0:41:50.740
so in the long term you are better off

0:41:50.740,0:41:54.660
by developing the disentanglement experiences

0:41:57.300,0:42:02.200
which way do you use to key into
the beautiful mind states

0:42:03.400,0:42:06.360
for me personally I want to finish with my own

0:42:06.640,0:42:08.860
way into the metta meditation

0:42:08.860,0:42:10.380
loving kindness meditation

0:42:11.220,0:42:13.800
was every time I wold come and meditate

0:42:13.840,0:42:15.760
I just didn’t want to do stuff

0:42:17.180,0:42:20.540
this is why I was never any good at TM meditation

0:42:21.160,0:42:24.360
sit and recite a mantra over and over
– arghh –

0:42:25.000,0:42:27.080
I’ve got enough stuff in my mind

0:42:27.520,0:42:31.200
I know it has benefits, and if you do it
it’s good, you can work it

0:42:31.800,0:42:33.480
I just didn’t want to do it

0:42:34.040,0:42:37.080
I had this teacher who said –
you focus on the in-breath

0:42:37.080,0:42:38.320
focus on the out-breath

0:42:38.320,0:42:42.000
and on the out-breath, just as it stops
you focus on your buttocks

0:42:42.000,0:42:43.120
pressing on the seat

0:42:43.120,0:42:46.800
and then back to the in-breath,
and the out, and then the buttocks

0:42:47.380,0:42:49.260
I don’t want to do it

0:42:49.960,0:42:51.160
but I did it anyway

0:42:51.160,0:42:57.640
ok in-breath in, out, buttocks
in-out-buttocks buttocks buttocks to this practice

0:42:58.960,0:43:00.880
and I went back and I reported

0:43:00.880,0:43:04.320
because I wanted to report
that I was doing the practice so I did it

0:43:04.320,0:43:06.380
and I went back and I reported that I did it

0:43:06.400,0:43:08.240
‘fine. Now I want you to say’

0:43:08.580,0:43:12.340
‘in-breath, hands, out-breath, buttocks’
NO

0:43:12.780,0:43:14.940
I draw the line – I’m not doing it!

0:43:15.820,0:43:19.020
oh man – this may work for many people

0:43:20.140,0:43:22.860
I’m absolutely not saying it’s a bad practice

0:43:23.040,0:43:25.100
just not what I wanted to do

0:43:28.220,0:43:32.260
this Tibetan teacher gave me a Bodhisattva

0:43:32.260,0:43:33.860
I think it was Manjushri

0:43:34.220,0:43:36.180
with the sword of insight

0:43:36.180,0:43:39.000
he said this is your Bodhisattva
you have to memorize it

0:43:39.080,0:43:42.680
color of the finger nails
the jewels .. everything …

0:43:44.900,0:43:46.040
STOP!

0:43:48.100,0:43:50.900
and so what I would do is I would just stop

0:43:50.900,0:43:53.300
I don’t want to do anything in my meditation

0:43:53.420,0:43:56.220
and what I find is my mind will do stuff anyway

0:43:56.220,0:44:00.800
but when I hold my mind back
from this leaking out and doing things

0:44:00.960,0:44:07.040
every so often the mind comes together
becomes very bright, very mindful and very clear

0:44:07.300,0:44:09.500
IT’S RIGHT THERE!

0:44:11.640,0:44:15.000
so this is the kind of meditation that I would do

0:44:15.000,0:44:17.320
and I would say it’s more towards emptiness

0:44:17.920,0:44:18.800
than

0:44:20.500,0:44:23.860
not generating certain beautiful mind states

0:44:23.860,0:44:26.460
but just allowing everything to be empty

0:44:26.980,0:44:30.660
and when I would get to that
.. ahh .. it’s just .. nice!

0:44:30.880,0:44:36.280
it’s just right
my mind is just so present and happy and bright

0:44:36.400,0:44:38.560
and then it occurred to me one day

0:44:38.560,0:44:40.400
I was sitting like this,
and I thought

0:44:40.480,0:44:42.400
what if I just called this

0:44:42.860,0:44:44.860
loving kindness meditation

0:44:46.120,0:44:47.880
and what if I just offered it out?

0:44:47.880,0:44:50.680
and then suddenly that was when could do it

0:44:51.660,0:44:55.500
I could just shine this clarity of mind out

0:44:55.760,0:44:59.240
and that was how I keyed into the
metta meditation

0:44:59.240,0:45:01.060
and when ti first started to make sense for me

0:45:02.620,0:45:07.640
so out of the different states
that are worth developing

0:45:07.780,0:45:09.380
there are disenchantment states

0:45:09.380,0:45:14.240
and I’m going to talk more about these in
one of the future weeks

0:45:14.600,0:45:18.440
So long term – disenchantment is ..
are more powerful

0:45:18.820,0:45:21.080
they will generate wisdom

0:45:21.080,0:45:23.300
they will break your attachment to the world

0:45:23.320,0:45:25.300
they will really help your meditation

0:45:25.560,0:45:28.760
so those are one set of the beautiful mind states

0:45:29.320,0:45:33.840
and the other set, as the illuminatory mind states
you have th

0:45:33.840,0:45:37.000
mundane illuminatory mind states,
which means

0:45:37.240,0:45:40.680
states that you’ve developed through intention

0:45:40.980,0:45:44.260
patience practice,
or loving kindness practice

0:45:44.260,0:45:45.600
or compassion practice

0:45:46.280,0:45:49.340
all the different mind states
that you can think of that are

0:45:49.460,0:45:50.480
beautiful

0:45:50.480,0:45:54.520
and the tricks and the techniques that you use to develop them and bring them up

0:45:54.520,0:45:56.240
and bring them close to you

0:45:56.420,0:45:58.580
so that your mind leans in to them

0:45:59.260,0:46:02.680
the other set comes from the emptiness practices

0:46:02.680,0:46:04.740
which is just where everything stops

0:46:05.380,0:46:10.560
that kind of illuminatory experience
also is a beautiful mind state

0:46:16.380,0:46:20.560
according to – I love these !
– according to science

0:46:21.500,0:46:28.060
there are 6 scientifically proven reasons
to practice loving kindness meditation

0:46:32.320,0:46:36.560
1. it increases positive emotions

0:46:41.680,0:46:43.920
it is a positive emotion!

0:46:44.600,0:46:47.200
that’s like saying having money makes you rich

0:46:48.140,0:46:53.740
it is a positive emotion – it doesn’t
increase my positive emotion

0:46:55.320,0:46:58.340
2. it decreases your inner critic

0:46:59.480,0:47:00.580
that’s true

0:47:00.620,0:47:04.300
I have a strong inner critic
and I’d like to decrease him

0:47:05.700,0:47:07.800
3. it increases your empathy

0:47:07.800,0:47:12.120
it’s the same as the first one –
I mean, that loving kindness is empathetic

0:47:13.820,0:47:18.640
it’s like, if you practice empathy,
you are empathetic .. yes

0:47:19.540,0:47:22.640
here’s a more practical one in case you’re interested

0:47:22.640,0:47:24.320
4. it decreases migranes

0:47:27.120,0:47:29.520
personally I’ve never had a migrane

0:47:30.100,0:47:32.740
so not so attractive to me that one

0:47:33.680,0:47:36.240
5. it increases your compassion

0:47:37.440,0:47:40.240
and the last one – this is my favorite of all

0:47:40.920,0:47:43.020
I have to check how you say it

0:47:43.380,0:47:45.940
6. it lengthens your telomeres

0:47:47.440,0:47:48.800
you know telomeres?

0:47:48.800,0:47:50.100
I might be saying it wrong

0:47:50.180,0:47:53.340
telomeres are the ends of your genes

0:47:53.620,0:47:54.720
genes are the

0:47:56.180,0:47:58.540
the DNA right

0:47:58.580,0:48:01.220
your amino acids – your 4 amino acids

0:48:01.220,0:48:03.540
and they go into chains
and the chains fold up

0:48:03.540,0:48:04.880
and that is a gene

0:48:04.980,0:48:09.760
as an expression of certain batch .. of .. genes

0:48:09.880,0:48:12.320
and on the end of these is like a cap

0:48:12.720,0:48:17.200
and every time the cell divides
the cap gets a bit shorter

0:48:17.300,0:48:19.720
and this is what increases your aging

0:48:19.720,0:48:21.980
and why human beings age

0:48:23.820,0:48:27.740
it’s not as obvious … you’d think that
it’s obvious that animals will age

0:48:27.880,0:48:30.360
but actually it’s not
trees don’t age

0:48:31.740,0:48:33.940
they may get more impurities

0:48:33.960,0:48:36.360
and they may get more and more impure

0:48:37.020,0:48:38.860
so eventually they will die

0:48:38.860,0:48:41.880
but they don’t actually have a programmed aging

0:48:41.960,0:48:43.200
like animals do

0:48:43.540,0:48:47.140
so apparently
if you practice loving kindness meditation

0:48:47.260,0:48:49.180
it lengthens your telomeres

0:48:49.960,0:48:52.360
you seem to know more about this than I do

0:48:52.680,0:48:54.280
according to my science

0:48:54.300,0:48:57.180
it is not possible to lengthen the telomere

0:48:57.240,0:48:57.960
right

0:48:58.680,0:48:59.340
so

0:49:01.060,0:49:02.340
take that from us

0:49:02.340,0:49:05.220
there are 11 reasons
which I’ll finish off with

0:49:05.220,0:49:09.120
11 reasons that the Buddha gave
for practicing loving kindness

0:49:09.520,0:49:11.520
and this list makes a bit more sense

0:49:12.960,0:49:14.720
first 3 reasons

0:49:14.720,0:49:17.240
you will sleep more easily

0:49:17.600,0:49:19.580
you will wake more happily

0:49:19.580,0:49:21.680
and you will not have evil dreams

0:49:23.340,0:49:24.760
so that’s handy!

0:49:29.120,0:49:31.400
it’s true, this thing about evil dreams

0:49:31.500,0:49:35.020
if you do bad things
it affects your dreams right?

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it just does

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4. it will make you dear to human beings

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if you fancy being dear to human beings

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to me … you know … I’m no so …

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I don’t mind being dear to human beings
but, just so long as you don’t …

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come and knock on my door too often

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5. this one is a bit more worrying
it makes you dear to non-human beings

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and the first thing that I thought of was ghosts

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because they are in-human right

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I don’t want to be dear to ghosts

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unless there’s a ghost already here
then I want to be dear to it

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but if I’m dear to ghosts
and I’m pulling ghosts in

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but then it occurred to me
that non-human beings may be animals

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and I want to be dear to animals

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kittens – I want to be dear to kittens

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even snakes .. you know .. I would

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I would rather – if there’s going to be a snake

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I would rather dear to it …

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I’m not bad with snakes ..
snakes and me have a working relationship

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we’re ok
spiders not so much!

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but snakes …

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I know this one Thai woman
she was absolutely terrified of snakes

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and she was a very …

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hi-so woman
[high society]

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she used to make …
well, I’m not going to tell you that

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and when she was young
there was a snake in the house

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and she got her servants to catch it
and hold it, and she

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took a needle and thread
and she sewed it’s mouth shut

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so ever after that she was
absolutely terrified of snakes

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so

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if you practice loving kindness, then …

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this thing about sleeping more easily – yes

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you have less fear

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if you do bad things
those fears will stick with you

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so dear to non-human beings

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here’s a good one

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devas will protect you

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so good devas will come
and they will look after you

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I don’t know if this is
how we get the next three

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positive qualities, but

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fire, poison and weapons
will not be able to harm you

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if you do loving kindness meditation

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these days it’s easier,
you just get an amulet

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and the amulet will protect you
so you don’t need to bother with the loving kindness

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your mind will concentrate quickly

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and I’ll come back to that one
there’s a very nice story about that

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your complexion is bright

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and this is actually true

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when people have been meditating
and when …

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and I know for myself
when I’ve been meditating and hitting the spot

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my face just kind of shines

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you actually get like, a kind of grease

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will come on the skin

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and people will actually say to you
‘oh you look very nice today’

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so it actually does

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not just loving kindness meditation

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but like a … pure meditation

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and when you die

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you will die unconfused

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and you will go to a heavenly realm

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this thing of concentrating quickly
the Buddha had a

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very quickly, had a story about this

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he said that a man who concentrates

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on his meditation but has not practiced loving kindness

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it’s like a person who is thirsty
and in need of water

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finds a hoof print

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is walking somewhere where there is no water

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and they find a hoof print

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that is filled with water

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and in order to get the water
from that hoofprint

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they have to find a straw

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kneel down and very carefully

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put the straw into the middle of the water

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to suck up
the water

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so that it doesn’t get
mixed with the earth

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so it’s unmiddied

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it occurs to me – I’m just hoping
that it’s water in the hooprint

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he said that’s like a person doing meditation

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who can concentrate
but has not practiced this morality

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compared to a person who is wondering in a desert

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looking for water
and finds an oasis

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and takes off their clothes and
jumps into the pool and splashes around

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that’s the meditation of a person
who has practiced loving kindness

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so the loving kindness in Buddhism,
will make you happy

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Insight meditation makes you wise

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loving kindness makes you happy

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when your mind is happy
it’s easier to concentrate

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OK so that’s beautiful mind states

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we’ve only mentioned some of
the beautiful mind states, but …

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are there any questions,
thoughts, or comments?

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