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  1. I also have distanced from my parents. Although I can’t say there was ever a time when there was any closeness.
    I sincerely hope that the mindfulness training will shape us as we get older, but I am a fan of scientific investigation – and would need some good long term surveys to really be sure.
    From seeing people who practise, and how they age, I would say anecdotally that you age better as a meditator. And certainly you are more able to handle the crisis of illness/dying.
    The important thing with family is to fogive. That does not mean you have to become friends with them, or suffer abuse of any kind. But in your own mind, we have to have ‘let go’ and ‘let be’.

  2. I remember after watching this film you said whatever the personal trait people have tends to get amplified or aggravated when they reach old age, quoting a caretaker you met at some nursing home in Bang Khae. Does meditation from younger age help attain self awareness that prepares one for old age in this regard? I’m asking this because me and my wife came to agree this is exactly what we’re observing in my mother who turned 70, (my parents live just 15 min from our home in Bangkok), although somewhat subsiding for my father. Unlike most Thais I found that I have distanced myself more and more from my parents as I grow older and I’ve only recently learned from my wife that she complained bitterly about me not coming to visit her. Yet the older she gets the more difficult a person she seems to becomes. I recently gave up on the idea of taking her to accompany us on our next trip to Europe that me and my wife once planned to do before she gets too frail to travel faraway destination.

  3. Jun, any effort you make now will make you feel so much better after they have died.

  4. Thank you for the comments.
    My mother stopped dying her hair since last year. Even before that I could tell she got older every time I met her. It’s hard to see my own parents in accelerated aging when they turn 70 and 80. What’s even harder is knowing they’ll soon leave this world maintaining their ignorance. I’ve never bothered to invite my mother to Ariyason for Monday sessions even though they live so close to soi 1.